I have done the online dating, both paid and free sites. I have heard and actually met a few people who met their current spouse/significant other online so I thought I would give it a try. Here are some lessons learned based on my less than stellar experiences. In no particular order….
1 – it isn’t easy
2 – All the hype about having a good written profile is hype, better to have a good picture. I think I only had one man comment about the profile I spent hours writing.
3 – people lie…a lot
4 – scammers are prolific
5 – you learn to translate very quickly ie “I’m not looking for dates just someone to talk to” = I am married/have a girlfriend and “maybe fun” = I want a booty call/sex
6 – being “cougar age” chances are better than not you will be contacted by men much younger than your stated age range
7 – be careful asking for pictures, if you are a woman asking a man for a picture chances are better than not you will get….to be delicate…a friend calls them pickle shots
8 – if you do decide to email one another outside of the website learn how to strip the headers off the email and trace the IP addresses to verify that you aren’t emailing someone overseas
update 2/15/13 In the last two days have been contacted by two scammers, and one “mature for my age” 25 year old. This is to top off the month long experiment of trying the online thing again. In the 4 weeks I was on I had zero contact with anyone who was either real or age appropriate. It is time to throw in the towel again with the online dating thing.